skinny or fat

i just watched a talkshow that was referring to the media playing an important role in promoting skinnyness which leads to annorexia and bulimia amongst women in today's society.

but i'm wondering, the media is run by people, people like you, like me. who work in an industry made to entertain, educate and inform the people. are they truly the ones to blame?

lets look into it.

personally, i know of guys who refuse to date girls who are any fleshier than those models on television. and i know of girls too who will lose that extra amount of weight, just to look good.

looking at that, it does seem as though men are the ones who define the beauty of women rather than women themselves right?

and yet, thinking of it that way seems as though they're taking a selfless route; satisfying other's happiness and 'lust' at the loss of their own health.

is it really a sense of security a girl needs such that they lose weight? does this security constitute to making others look at them in a positive light so that they too can then learn to appreciate themselves?

i know of beautiful, and i mean superbly, absolutely beautiful girls who are so bereaved of their confidence by others and honestly, its quite sad they need so much convincing of how beautiful they actually are.

i think what the media really makes us think is not that we're great people as we are, but we can always make ourselves better people. (looks wise) otherwise known as, "perfection".

there's this one line that i always liked. 'imperfection is true perfection'. the little moles or pimples, that bit of wrinkle or bit of baby fat, that's what makes us perfect individuals cause it shows our normality, our uniqueness, our individuality. US.

leave the annorexia and bulimia to the truly sick. leave the guys who look at you with disdain. someone once told me, :'if you keep calling someone fat just to make fun of them, be prepared to have a fat wife in the future'. we reap what we sow. how apt.

down to it, i've settled on one equation. lusty men + insecure women = men getting what they want + women suffering

its true that all this is diminishing slowly. but there are still so many women insecure with how they look and men who push women to get that 'desired' figure. perhaps it'll never end till guys get their egos deflated and women get uber confident. we shall see. =) we shall see.

s